Comments on: Be Sexier in Person

By: What’s Your Story? « Social Deviants

What’s Your Story? « Social Deviants — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 04:08:52 +0000

[...] Don’t sell, but know your pitch. Brogan wrote a great piece about a year ago called Be Sexier in Person with great tips from him AND the commenters on how to present yourself in person in a brief amount [...]

By: dennishahn

dennishahn — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:25:19 +0000

Thanks Chris, for another great topic and all the comments are awesome. I remember being invited to my first network meeting, I didnt know what to expect but I had a good idea. I did not feel sexy at all. I was nervous to start and went right to the refreshments and actually shook when pooring a cup of coffee, I finally took a seat, started to relax a little bit. I collected the atmosphere, it all got quiet and the speaker said we're going to start in the front row and everyone will have 60 seconds to introduce their self. I sat in the back of a small room of 58 intimidating people and said sunny beach, I couldnt run. lol, talk about a hot flash of reality! What a lesson to never forget!
Now I exercise and read before and focus on why I'm there, how to properly listen, learn, share and above all you be yourself. This all takes practice, and it helps to get out from behind your computer.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:04:11 +0000

Confidence rules………….the challenge is finding the rule book.

By: rockandrollmama

rockandrollmama — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:01:51 +0000

I knew I brought a Costco pack of Mentos to SXSW for a reason. See you Monday if not before- looking forward to GRTL.

By: Angela Petersen

Angela Petersen — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:59:34 +0000

At any lull in the conversation, simply extend your hand and say, “It was great to meet you / catch up / see you again!” Works for me every time… :)

By: Jenifer De La Garza

Jenifer De La Garza — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:48:29 +0000

Stand up straight and do NOT chew gum! Great article!

By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:48:47 +0000

Love your article on being sexier in person. I used to have meeting new peeps, but I spoke to leadership guru John Maxwell told me why he is SO successful and being “sexier”. He asks them, “what challenges are you facing right now”?. Most people love to talk about themselves and he listens (and cares). Of course, once you know what challenge is a really big deal to them – you can go about helping them to solve it. Win-win everytime. Great post Chris – I love your articles. Keep up the great writing. :)

By: garysdavis

garysdavis — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:30:47 +0000

I think this is one of the best brief descriptions I have seen. I work with people on how to network, and they think there is a bunch of stuff they do not know, but really it is simple, nice job.

By: benfitts

benfitts — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:29:22 +0000

These might not work if you do a lot of conferences or shows… but if you do a lot of shows you probably don't need this advice.

One thing I like to do is get a haircut. It works for both genders. You feel more confident after you've gotten a great new haircut. I try to plan to get my haircut a week or so ahead of time. That way if there was a catastrophe with my hair I would have time to get it fixed before the event.

Another thing I do is buy a new item of clothing like a new shirt or shoes or whatever. It can make you feel more confident, and thus, more sexy. Or for guys… maybe you just get your shoes shined. I love the airport shoe shine guys.

By: christinefantoni

christinefantoni — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:14:49 +0000

I can tell yo want NOT to do. I was working away on a problem and called my boss over to ask him a question. He gave me the information that I needed, but kept hanging around talking–and I had work to do! Without really thinking about it, I looked at him (was trying the ignoring technique) and said “I am done with you now”. His eyes got very round and fortunately he laughed! So, I guess “I am done with you now” is an option but use it with caution! :-)