Guest Post – Old Answers on How to Get From Stuck to Traveling Fast

February 26, 2009 · Comments

The following is a guest post from Liz Strauss.

Do you wish you could move a little faster? . . . need a little more go? . . . a little — maybe a lot — more traction? Are you feeling stuck on shoulder while other folks are speeding by on the Infobahn?

No? If you’re barreling down on your destination, don’t let my words hold you for even a second. You go. You keep on going until you finish a winner. I know what it means to be on a mission. I’m from Chicago … I saw them film the chase scene in the Blues Brothers movie.

Yeah, I’m that old.

Still here? If forward action might be an improvement, it’s not an uncommon condition, this time of year. People start feeling the pavement sticking for a number reasons: holiday bills, dips in productivity, distractions, noise, Internet traffic peaks and valleys, the generational nature of certain subjects that turns over readership in cycles.

One advantage of being elderly is that few brand-new situations end up in front of me. Rare ones that do often bare a significant resemblance to something I already know about. If isn’t”been there, done that,” it’s often “been close and It’s like that one.”

Take that feeling that you’re stuck and everyone on the Internet is passing you. It”s like finding your car stuck in the mud, when all of your friends are on a paved road heading to a party.

The wisdom that works for one can also be applied to the other.

Try not to spin your wheels.

If you’re stuck, a sense of panic can cause an overreaction — a gallant try to grab control. If you slam your foot down on the gas without thinking, you’re just as likely to spin wheels in deeper. Sit back. Reflect. Get your bearings. Don’t things around you be in control.

It’s rare to see a vehicle that stuck all the way. Some need jumping out. Some need rocking real slow.

Let all systems reach equilibrium. Check all your stats — subscribers, comments, content — and see exactly which need attention in which order. Decide how you’re going tease the best performance out of each them. People won’t remember how long it took. They remember the results.

Reform the rut to go where you want to go.

Are you in groove that has no traction? A small shift of the steering wheel can change the way your tires grip. Maybe a shovel can pull away enough of the barrier to get you going.

Ever notice when you only talk to the people you know, that new ideas come slow? Our communities and social circles can sometimes close around us, like the groove that holds a stuck tire.

Step left, right or even upward. Take a few minutes every day to explore the social sphere on your own. Meet people in your neighborhood — online and offline. Don’t wait for people to find you. Read a new blogger. Find a new Twitter friend. Talk to them all. Be interested and interesting. Offer to exchange ideas and guest posts with the ones you admire. Look for ways to add value to what they do.
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Put substance behind your wheels.

Something to give the tires to grab onto to is what you need. Just a little traction from sand or cardboard under a soggy tires can get you moving forward in a try or two.

Work smarter. Pick topics, find angles, and explore questions that are intriguing and new. Be a thought-provoker who’s fun to talk with. Check everything you write or offer as if you were sending to the most important person on the planet. Because you are.

Have your heart in it. Go the extra mile to show that what you’re doing is important. Do what you say you will — answer emails, return phone calls. Respect the other person that way consistently and I guarantee that folks will notice and return that to respect you by tanker truckloads . . . because hardly anyone does it.

Know your message. Stand up for who you are — your personal goal. Know what to answer when folks say, “How can I help you?” Everyone feels better when someone is clear about who they are.

Get a push if you need one.

Five people on the back end pushing can move a car out of a rut too. It hard work and sometimes they have to go out of their way to help you.

When you really need help to get going, ask for it. Ask your friends to pitch in. Tell them why it’s important. Ask in a way that makes them feel proud that they helped you.

When you’re on the road again, keep an eye on the shoulder for folks who are stuck like you were. Lend a hand when you can. It’s what good folks do.

However you get there, keep one point to remember. Paying too much attention to what the other cars are doing won’t get you where you’re going.

You’ve got a different car. You’re a different driver.

How do you get yourself stuck and on the moving road again?

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  • Liz:

    Thank you for the pick me up. I was actually feeling the way you described just yesterday.

    I am not a writer by nature so at times I struggle to come up with blog ideas. Yeah, I get in a rut. One tool that stimulates thoughts is http://www.Search.twitter.com. Just clicking on one of the featured memes or running a search on the keyword, "help" usually gets me going.

    Thanks again for your wisdom.

    John
    Customer Flypaper
  • Oh I *like* this analogy, especially:

    "However you get there, keep one point to remember. Paying too much attention to what the other cars are doing won’t get you where you’re going.

    You’ve got a different car. You’re a different driver."

    I'd describe it as you're the solo singer in your own personal career - it doesn't matter what other performers are doing, you have to sing your own song to make it big.

    I get myself unstuck and on the moving road once again by simply trusting in my own unique abilities. Nobody can write what I do...because nobody has had my own particular experiences in gaining my own special knowledge. The beauty of that attitude is it can be applied by everyone...if they give themselves permission to soar.

    Data points,

    Barbara
  • I could be a millionaire several times over by now if the company that I work for gave me a dollar every time they said "look at what the other companies are doing they must be right! "
    When you do this innovation and motivation flies right out of the door along with the ability to express an opinion.

    Thanks for the post
  • This is a great post. I definitely feel this way many times every day working in the social media space!

    This morning, for the first time, I got up, got on email/Twitter,etc. and then went back to bed. Closed my eyes, opened them, got pen and journal in hand and wrote, " I feel overwhelmed." Then, I wrote "workflow"..made columns and wrote it all down--step by step. I was able, after that, to pull the blanket over my head, bury myself in a vision of spaciousness and fall asleep again. NOW, today, I'm up and see this FABULOUS post first thing and am smiling! Synchronicity of thoughts?

    I will pass this along to everyone I know. Thank you for articulating so brilliantly, Liz, what many of us need to know and be reminded of so we can open happiness in our lives!
  • @John,
    I wrote this because we all get there. Looking at the folks around, who wouldn't see this mass and flurry of growth as overwelming once in a while? I use search tools and photo searches to get ideas too.

    @Hey Barbara
    It's easy to forget that we bring our "own thing" that no one else can add to the mix of what's being offered. New data points for sure.

    @Grant
    Yeah, me too. Let them do what they're doing. We've got our own stuff to do.
  • Liz! I so needed to read this this morning. Thank you. :)
  • Hi Liz,

    My "car" had a bit of a stall, and I had run out of ideas to get it moving again. I was just in one of those kind of places. Well, roadside assistance to the rescue! All I had to do was ask. In my last post, I asked for ideas from my trusty people on how to get back on the road and they came through in a big way. Got me back on the road in no time flat.

    I'm so glad for the readers I have. I know that when I'm traveling, I'm never going it alone!

    Cheers

    George
  • We all sometimes get stuck in that proverbial 'rut', but it's all a matter of how much effort we take on helping ourselves to get out. I'm kind of stuck currently with my blogging and what I've found is the more conversations I have with people, new and old, the more ideas begin flowing and thoughts are turned into longer discussions. Thus, helping take that one idea I had, which just rolled around trying to get unstuck and go from an idea to a post, and stimulated it by connecting with folks and allowing them to help me expand it.

    Loved this post, Liz. Thanks!
  • have often made this same connection -- comparing my late teens/early 20s life to driving while looking in the side view mirrors, as if what other people were doing could give me some kind of hint what i should be doing. took the GREs for this very reason. didn't need to.

    thanks, enjoyed it!
  • Perfectly timed! (And Leslie, I believe synchronicity is part of life -- if we're aware, as you were this morning.)

    Thanks Liz. You put each of us behind the wheel of our own blog, art studio, book-writing venture, job! I'm clicking out of here and ready to write.......... then finish the baby portrait.....
  • This is a very timely subject. One thing that is important to remember is that you have to create moments yourself. Things don’t just magically happen. Even for folks that you might deem as “lucky,” you really have to step back and look at what they did to get in such a “lucky” situation. If you feel idol, do something!
  • Liz,
    Being from Boston, I can relate to the car getting stuck analogy - although the typical setting for the image is snow and ice, not mud (unless its spring mud season in Vermont of course...).
    But for me, the sensation of getting stuck is more like being a wind-up rubber duckie in a bathtub. I get stuck going round and round in the tub - with the same information, the same way of framing challenges, the same problems again and again. I might try to break free with my own "new" solutions, but inevitably, I hit the curvy part of the tub. Whether I go clockwise or counter-clockwise, fast or slow, there I go again, round and round.
    Something that really helped recently was training a colleague conducted in what we call Imagine - based on the creative problem solving process by Osborne. The challenge? How to market strategy. A tough sell, given the nature of the service ('er vague - right?), the outcome (well, it should really payoff if you execute well - right?) and the economy (needn't say more).
    What the process did is broaden the participation to other colleagues unconcerned and unfamiliar with the problem. A facilitator prompted me with a set of standard questions while others listened (so-called intake). Then, very quickly, they jotted down a bunch of questions that occurred to them. We grouped the questions and assessed them, then I picked the ones that felt most relevant. Within 15-20 minutes I had moved out of the tub into the pond. I began to break out of a months-long, even years long lingering, rut.
    I am in the process of mapping out next steps, but this duckie is happily on his way.
    The takeaway - establish a process for engaging others, look for fresh thinkers that are outside your rut and willing to help, and get ready to get going.
    If there are no fish in the barrel, change the barrel. That's where others can help you - in understanding what barrel you should be in....
    Thanks again for the post.
  • I always used to get stuck in a "rut" but now I have more people supporting me, I am very much more successful than I ever used to be!
  • Jeannie Walters
    I like this very much. Here's why: it is easy right now to feel the crush of things out of our control, yet now is the very time to take control. We all need a push sometimes. Thanks for doing that for me. (p.s. Blues Brothers memories mean you're old!? Uh oh...I'm in trouble.)
  • Liz - I love seeing you here because it means I get a lift from you TWICE today!!

    What words of WISDOM you offer freely here: "Paying too much attention to what the other cars are doing won’t get you where you’re going."

    I used to have a client who was SO FRUSTRATED that things weren't moving "faster" in his consulting practice. I WISH I'd had your analogy at that time because it's PRICELESS!!! (By the way, that client - who I haven't worked with in 4 years called last week - he's still stuck watching the other cars - wondering why he's not going anywhere!)

    Great guest post Liz!
  • Chris, and Liz Strauss!

    Thank you!

    I'm in that rut right now, on 'information overload', too many 'guru's espousing their get-rich-quick-schemes, the background 'noise level is deafening from all of the sales-pitch pages with bright yellow and red text pushing whatever recycled 'system' that if you just work it for long enough will bring massive checks and dollars to your Pay-Pal account!

    Your clarity and encouragement is appreciated. I'm currently bogged-down with all of the administrative tasks associated with a web-marketing startup.

    Market-niche selection, landing page creation, web-site administration (I do not code in .php or .html), ad copy-writing, and the sheer number of hours spent creating and launching campaigns only to see them fail is mind-numbing to say the least.

    It truly is like the 'Wild-West', the only thing certain is that you will spend a ton of money 'learning' how to spend a ton of money!

    I'm going to print this post out and place it next to my monitor, in case I decide I want to quit this on-line marketing effort, which I think about nearly every day.

    Respectfully,

    Nicholas Chase
    www.twitter.com/nachase
  • "When you’re on the road again, keep an eye on the shoulder for folks who are stuck like you were. Lend a hand when you can. It’s what good folks do."

    Sometimes in the process of helping others (even while we are still "stuck") we get unstuck ourselves.

    Thank you Liz for this post. Timing is spooky.
  • This blog brought to mind the movie "My Cousin Vinny" One of my favorites.
    Not only does he get physically stuck in the mud, he demonstrates the steps you are writing about. - Beside Marissa Tome gives her Oscar winning performance.

    Thanks
    Sheila
  • "People won’t remember how long it took. They remember the results." What a great reminder. People will also remember how they felt about their experience with you - maybe even more than the result. Doing what you recommend will make for a more enjoyable ride. Thanks so much for taking the time to post!
  • There's a concept which I use in my motivational speaking sessions: "People change when they are sufficiently motivated to change." Find a purpose to move fast, and folks will move fast. Find a reason for them to hustle, and they will hustle. There may be a different triggering point for different people. "Sufficient Motivation" makes the analysis pretty simple every time.

    He won't marry me? He's not sufficiently motivated.

    He does not show up on time? He's not sufficiently motivated.
  • Recently unemployed, I am trying to take this time to enhance my blog, as well as search for a job. Feeling a little on my own (wondering if this is what working at home feels like?), it's nice to get a pep talk from this post! Thanks to both of you, Liz and Chris, for the support and inspiration of your blogs and tweets.

    Mary Pat
  • This Blog remind my trip to Jinga in Germany. Selecting the right and safe path for your journey is the right approach.
  • Loved this post. Thanks for all the advise and encouragement!
  • Liz,
    I now beleive you can read minds, this is just how I felt the last few days.

    Chris, thanks for inviting liz to post. It was nice to bump into her unexectedly!
  • Thanks for Helping Us out of the ditch Liz. For Being a Good Example.
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