Comments on: Quid Pro No

By: Who Made Emotions King?

Who Made Emotions King? — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 19:48:36 +0000

[...] Brogan recently posted Quid Pro No. The situation is simple: If I invite you to join the Facebook group for Trust Agents, it’s [...]

By: uncledoug

uncledoug — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 10:02:46 +0000

In my humble opinion, we set ourselves up for trouble when we devise rules of conduct designed to appear as prerequisites to membership. In following these rules, we often
will come into conflict with natural conventions of behavior/conduct which are already
in practice causing a conflict, namely, should I obey the membership rule or follow my natural and usual intuition to guide my decision as to how to respond? This Would certainly cause a conflict and a resulting confrontation would ensue. This is always a problem where rules of conduct dominate over natural propensities.
This is why, in the interest of ones personal freedom to act on ones own volition,
one should keep belonging to groups and clubs and other organized activities
to a minimum. In my own case, I am a virtual hermit due to my guarding against
surrendering my personal freedom.I prefer to do my own thinking.—Doug Rosbury

By: Bryna

Bryna — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 01:47:16 +0000

I think it really has to do with picking and choosing the moments when we can/will help others--especially those who are new to the field, but have a genuine heart to give back to others ;) I appreciate this post, because it's something I struggle with. Shameless self-promotion gives me a migraine (even when I'm shamelessly promoting myself). I find when I tie it in to a bigger cause, usually a charity for me, then I feel better about putting myself out there.

I get that it's not all about me. A trip to Africa in February of this year really hammered that home. I've never been so impressed upon to help others with the meager means I have (be they financial or through the use of my social media accounts).

But that's why I love being in PR--sometimes I get the opportunity to give without getting anything in return. Really, isn't that the best reason. It's not all about us, and what we can get. Sometimes an exchange of time/money/twitter status is just a gift. I like giving gifts. We shouldn't always expect a return, but it's nice when we get one.

By: Tuija

Tuija — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 04:48:11 +0000

Why would you follow people on Twitter any less discriminately than you'd do on Facebook or LinkedIn? In fact, why would you “befriend” anyone you don't want to, in any circumstance?

By: tiffanymonhollon

tiffanymonhollon — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 01:27:10 +0000

Who hasn't thought about this at one point or another?

What's difficult is when someone crosses the line and uses the relationship to create social pressure. It's so weird, because most people are conflict avoiders, right? So this is taking that on its head, because they are using the percieved distance online interactions create this illusion of, and use that as leverage to create a situation where now YOU have to avoid conflict you didn't even create!

Eban, it really resonated with me the part about social contracts. There are so many percieved social contracts out there it's silly. Because some I just flat out don't agree with on principle. But even disagreeing with an expectation could get you labelled as Mr. Bad Guy.

So, to flip this back to me, I think about the situation I was in lately where I had beta invites to a program that was doing an affiliate offer, where anyone who signed up under me would get a coupon and so would I. I wanted the coupon, but also, I didn't want to be one of "those people." So what I did was go through my address book and only e-mail the people I know personally who would actually be interested in the service -- and tell them that something was in it for me and for them.

And guess what happened? One person responded back with an affiliate offer of her own! It didn't really apply to me, so I declined it, and felt perfectly fine doing so, but I did wonder -- what does she think of me now? Did that bother her or offend her that I sent her an offer but I declined hers? Luckly she's a friend and it didn't bother her, but it did bring all these questions clearly to the forefront. Will I send out an affiliate offer like that again? In the end, is that coupon that I get worth the relationship perception I might be creating by sending it?

I don't know. What do you think?

By: tiffanymonhollon

tiffanymonhollon — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 20:27:10 +0000

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Twist Image - Six Pixels of Separation — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 02:21:51 +0000

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