Reach Escape Velocity

April 10, 2007 · Comments

Dave from Porter and Greg C and Lauren?Something my friend and PodCamp co-founder, Christopher S. Penn said spawned a thought that I wanted to make sure to share with you. It’s VERY important to break out of your comfort zone at conferences and social mixers.

New People are Energy and Blood

Getting to meet and experience new people at an event or social gathering is an opportunity to learn something new, meet someone interesting, make a new friend, or a client, or a collaborator. It’s a whole wealth of potential experiences, all held in one choice: the decision to spread out and get to know a few new folks.

Even in the world of social media, it becomes really easy to hang with the same people we’ve met at previous events. Believe me, I *love* getting to see my friends again at various social gatherings, and I like to make sure we get together and have a moment. Sometimes, I don’t really get enough time with friends I wish I could spend the whole day with. And yet, I know it’s important to also meet a few new folks. Maybe not EVERYONE, but even a few is a good thing.

If you’re shy, do it with a friend. Find that one person you know and think is interesting, and then ask THEM to go meet a few new friends with you. Safety in numbers, right?

Attend Something NOT Related to Your Interests

Even once, just sneak off to something that’s not exactly on message with what you’re doing and what you’re passionate about. For this simple reason: you never know. This thing might give you perspective you didn’t have before. I learn TONS from people outside my particular practice or interest. Because there’s that trick of cognitive resonance. You hear or see something that reminds you of something else, and pow! You’ve got something new.

Do the same things, get the same results

If you keep doing the same things, you’ll be assured of only one thing: no better than the same results. If you are looking for a way forward, a way to advance your interests, then try new things. Dare. Be excited by something. And test yourself. That’s always a value, as well. Test yourself by trying something new.

This stuff above is where more than half my success is derived. The rest comes from effort. How about you?

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  • I think this is the best- have everyone you do know bring one new person into the fold and enlarge the conversation. Like Chris Penn's Mash Bowl- drop in three cards, take out two, and go find those people, or email them, or hatever- make new friends and stretch your boundaries.
  • Agree, agree and agree.

    As an added twist, if you're NOT a generally shy person, you may want to combine Chris's first two tips: go off and meet new people and see new things completely on your own.

    Getting to see old friends at events is great, and is one of the primary reasons I attend. But Chris is right: that comfort zone is seductive, and after a few minutes you might get the impression that you don't NEED to meet new people because you're surrounded by old people.

    Take a break from the safety net. Agree to reconvene later. Heck, challenge everyone from the old group to bring someone new back to the evening's mixer. Whatever you do, find new ways to meet new people, or the conversation becomes a closed loop.
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