This is so true. It takes so much work to calculate every move to ensure that in your mind, you’ve “looked good” in front of so and so…

It’s truly a personal trait. It comes back to how one defines self worth, and where they look for fulfillment and validation.

Looking for your worth/fulfillment/validation in the praises of other people is a sad mistake that far too many people make.

Thanks for being real Chris, it’s refreshing.

This is so true. It takes so much work to calculate every move to ensure that in your mind, you’ve “looked good” in front of so and so…

It’s truly a personal trait. It comes back to how one defines self worth, and where they look for fulfillment and validation.

Looking for your worth/fulfillment/validation in the praises of other people is a sad mistake that far too many people make.

Thanks for being real Chris, it’s refreshing.

Chris,

I deal with this thing everyday, I’m not good at self-promotion or manipulation, and as a result I often feel that I am coming in last place.

All in all, I sleep well at night, never needing to remember what I’ve said or what tales I’m spinning.

I tell it like I see it, which may not work in the marketing world, but in my little slice of this earth, it works well. I’ve known many lonely millionaires.

Chris,

I deal with this thing everyday, I’m not good at self-promotion or manipulation, and as a result I often feel that I am coming in last place.

All in all, I sleep well at night, never needing to remember what I’ve said or what tales I’m spinning.

I tell it like I see it, which may not work in the marketing world, but in my little slice of this earth, it works well. I’ve known many lonely millionaires.

This makes me think about the balance between looking for the next step and going with the flow- it’s always a dance between the two. Everything that’s happened in the past year makes me think that the military has it right- no plan survives contact with the enemy- meaning that all plans are at best jumping off points for the on the spot improvising we all have to do.

In law school, I took a course in Bankruptcy law, and it was all about creative problem solving, including pre-bankruptcy planning. Likewise, many people plan for their eventual divorce long before the other party even has a clue. While not always “nice”, if you do know the other shoe is going to drop, sometimes, planning in advance can have its advantages. Similarly, if you were looking for a new job or new career, you might want to have something “in pocket” before telling your boss you quit, so you can still pay the rent in the meantime.

So in the end, I think you have to balance when to calculate and plan and when to go with the flow- and the wisdom is knowing the difference between the two.

This makes me think about the balance between looking for the next step and going with the flow- it’s always a dance between the two. Everything that’s happened in the past year makes me think that the military has it right- no plan survives contact with the enemy- meaning that all plans are at best jumping off points for the on the spot improvising we all have to do.

In law school, I took a course in Bankruptcy law, and it was all about creative problem solving, including pre-bankruptcy planning. Likewise, many people plan for their eventual divorce long before the other party even has a clue. While not always “nice”, if you do know the other shoe is going to drop, sometimes, planning in advance can have its advantages. Similarly, if you were looking for a new job or new career, you might want to have something “in pocket” before telling your boss you quit, so you can still pay the rent in the meantime.

So in the end, I think you have to balance when to calculate and plan and when to go with the flow- and the wisdom is knowing the difference between the two.

Sure they can plan and move and manoeuvre their way around life . In general they dont like, and usually plan to avoid, anything which smacks of thinking on their feet or making a decision quickly.

I tend to be the non calculator I like to leave it to my subconscious to do the planning and tactical and leave it to my concious mind to handle experience and understanding.

There is nothing ( other than the self marketing of the planner people ) to say that being a planner and a calculator is the best approach all the time.

Thanks for posting Chris.

It adds to my noodling over how to get a Macbook Pro for Christmas.

Sure they can plan and move and manoeuvre their way around life . In general they dont like, and usually plan to avoid, anything which smacks of thinking on their feet or making a decision quickly.

I tend to be the non calculator I like to leave it to my subconscious to do the planning and tactical and leave it to my concious mind to handle experience and understanding.

There is nothing ( other than the self marketing of the planner people ) to say that being a planner and a calculator is the best approach all the time.

Thanks for posting Chris.

It adds to my noodling over how to get a Macbook Pro for Christmas.

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