Do What Works for You

fishbowlTonight, I found myself in a strange spot. I left a comment on a microblogging site called Plurk where I said that I didn’t much like the service for me. I don’t. The user interface doesn’t work well for me. It’s a little too slow, too disjointed, and doesn’t scale well. It works great if you have a hundred or two hundred people to follow, but beyond that, it gets messy fast.

People responded back that they were upset that I didn’t like it, or that I hadn’t given it much time, etc, etc, etc. All of their thoughts were valid. Except it didn’t matter to me. I’m not saying they shouldn’t like it. I’m not saying it’s not a good platform. All I said was that it wasn’t for me.

Do What Works for You

Welcome to the fishbowl. In here, we get a little bit too excited sometimes. We get zealous about the bleeding edge. We sometimes get tired of things before most of the rest of the Internet has even found it. And we often crave connections and meaning and value out of these shiny objects.

But don’t let people tell you that you’re wrong for not liking something. Not into blogging? Swell. Don’t like Twitter? Fine. Hate podcasts? Perfect. It’s okay not to need/want/love the whole landscape. There are lots of services that people love that don’t fit my personal needs. I appreciate the services, but I’m not using them much.

If you’re here for business, for entertainment, to meet new friends, great. Do what works for you. Don’t let everyone else call you wrong for not liking MySpace, or for liking MySpace. If you’re excited about Second Life, don’t let me tell you that you’re silly just because I’m not a big fan.

Learn what works. Try out lots of things. And then go with what you end up liking. No harm. No foul.

I’ll be over here trying out new things still, but also going with what works for me.

You?

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  • http://www.theviralgarden.com mack collier

    Chris I think your particular situation is a bit different re: Plurk. As you know, I absolutely LOVE Plurk and the reason why I love Plurk is because it lets me more quickly and easily have conversations with, and connect with, other Plurk users. Far more easily than I can on Twitter.

    Now of course, your mileage may (and apparently does) vary.

    But something i’ve noticed over the past few weeks is that our lil Plurk community would wonder why certain people weren’t using Plurk. And you were one of those people. More than once I have heard ‘Gee I wish Chris Brogan was here, he’d really love it!’

    So now you’ve used Plurk, and you DON’T love it. So that’s kinda like a slap in the face to the people that wanted you there. And of course you didn’t intend it that way at all, but still.

    As you are well aware, evangelists are very passionate people. I completely understand the idea of using what works for you, and agree that’s what you have to do.

  • http://www.theviralgarden.com mack collier

    Chris I think your particular situation is a bit different re: Plurk. As you know, I absolutely LOVE Plurk and the reason why I love Plurk is because it lets me more quickly and easily have conversations with, and connect with, other Plurk users. Far more easily than I can on Twitter.

    Now of course, your mileage may (and apparently does) vary.

    But something i’ve noticed over the past few weeks is that our lil Plurk community would wonder why certain people weren’t using Plurk. And you were one of those people. More than once I have heard ‘Gee I wish Chris Brogan was here, he’d really love it!’

    So now you’ve used Plurk, and you DON’T love it. So that’s kinda like a slap in the face to the people that wanted you there. And of course you didn’t intend it that way at all, but still.

    As you are well aware, evangelists are very passionate people. I completely understand the idea of using what works for you, and agree that’s what you have to do.

  • http://chrisbrogan.com chrisbrogan

    @Mack – I’m sure I love the people who use it. I don’t love IT. Doesn’t seem that it should matter, but a few of you have written back to say that it seems like a smack in the face.

    I also don’t use Yahoo mail, AOL, Netvibes Ginger, BlogTalkRadio, and 3,414,970 services. By choice. Not because I don’t like the people there.

    What’s the solution?

  • http://chrisbrogan.com chrisbrogan

    @Mack – I’m sure I love the people who use it. I don’t love IT. Doesn’t seem that it should matter, but a few of you have written back to say that it seems like a smack in the face.

    I also don’t use Yahoo mail, AOL, Netvibes Ginger, BlogTalkRadio, and 3,414,970 services. By choice. Not because I don’t like the people there.

    What’s the solution?

  • http://blog.angelaconnor.com AngelaConnor

    Agreed, Chris. I wasn’t into Twitter a year ago when others were raving about it and encouraging me to get involved but it did not fit with my life then. It’s a much better fit now and I really “get it.” I didn’t “get it” back then so I waited and it was worth it.

  • http://blog.angelaconnor.com Angela Connor

    Agreed, Chris. I wasn’t into Twitter a year ago when others were raving about it and encouraging me to get involved but it did not fit with my life then. It’s a much better fit now and I really “get it.” I didn’t “get it” back then so I waited and it was worth it.

  • http://www.hooversbiz.com/ Anonymous

    @Mack Collier – I have a follow-up question. You wrote:

    “So now you’ve used Plurk, and you DON’T love it. So that’s kinda like a slap in the face to the people that wanted you there. And of course you didn’t intend it that way at all, but still.”

    But still . . . what?

    Not trying to be facetious / tendentious / etc. – I just don’t know what comes next in that line of thought.

  • http://hooversbiz.com Tim (@Twalk) Walker

    @Mack Collier – I have a follow-up question. You wrote:

    “So now you’ve used Plurk, and you DON’T love it. So that’s kinda like a slap in the face to the people that wanted you there. And of course you didn’t intend it that way at all, but still.”

    But still . . . what?

    Not trying to be facetious / tendentious / etc. – I just don’t know what comes next in that line of thought.

  • http://www.diligentdesign.net Corey Freeman

    Nice! I know what you mean. I’m not a giant plurk fan. Do I use it, yeah? but hey, it’s not a great place for research.

    I actually had an argument with a friend once about getting a life. Essentially, all I particularly do with my ‘life’ (during the school year) is band functions and schoolwork. That’s not good enough for the super jock, though. I also need to join clubs, go to parties, make new friends, etc etc.

    I like the friends I have. Do I go out every night? No. On the flip side, do I have constant rumors and talking behind my back? Nope. I love music and I work hard to keep my grades up, so I don’t see anything wrong with the life I’ve got. I have fun going to movies with my Dad, he gets my jokes.

    You should always go with what’s easiest for you and what makes you happy if it’s something like just living your day to day life and managing things. As long as it doesn’t effect them, who cares?

  • http://www.diligentdesign.net Corey Freeman

    Nice! I know what you mean. I’m not a giant plurk fan. Do I use it, yeah? but hey, it’s not a great place for research.

    I actually had an argument with a friend once about getting a life. Essentially, all I particularly do with my ‘life’ (during the school year) is band functions and schoolwork. That’s not good enough for the super jock, though. I also need to join clubs, go to parties, make new friends, etc etc.

    I like the friends I have. Do I go out every night? No. On the flip side, do I have constant rumors and talking behind my back? Nope. I love music and I work hard to keep my grades up, so I don’t see anything wrong with the life I’ve got. I have fun going to movies with my Dad, he gets my jokes.

    You should always go with what’s easiest for you and what makes you happy if it’s something like just living your day to day life and managing things. As long as it doesn’t effect them, who cares?

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  • http://gillie.tumblr.com Amie Gillingham

    Snort. I am one of those people who re-tried to sell you on plurk since I was one of those who hated it first, but it seriously grew on me once my network was in place and we found our rhythm. I doubt I would have stuck with it had Twitter been up and running at any point in June (or July). But yup, I hear you. Do what works for you.

  • http://gillie.tumblr.com Amie Gillingham

    Snort. I am one of those people who re-tried to sell you on plurk since I was one of those who hated it first, but it seriously grew on me once my network was in place and we found our rhythm. I doubt I would have stuck with it had Twitter been up and running at any point in June (or July). But yup, I hear you. Do what works for you.

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  • http://www.themurr.com/ David Murray

    Good point Chris and I enjoy reading everyone’s input on this.

    I was resitant to Plurk myself but it has grown on me and I have made connections through conversations I wouldn’t have had on Twitter.

    The social media crowd can be a fickle one… and there is an evangelistic approach to supporting specific tools. Its interesting to see how people can get defensive.

  • http://www.tuitionu.com/trueeducation/ DaveMurr

    Good point Chris and I enjoy reading everyone’s input on this.

    I was resitant to Plurk myself but it has grown on me and I have made connections through conversations I wouldn’t have had on Twitter.

    The social media crowd can be a fickle one… and there is an evangelistic approach to supporting specific tools. Its interesting to see how people can get defensive.

  • http://ittybiz.com Naomi Dunford

    Oh, good Lord, yes. I feel like I’m the only person in the business world that doesn’t think the sun shines out of LinkedIn’s ass. Facebook was kind of OK for me until the whole send-me-a-plant thing started. But I really dig Twitter.

    It seems like there’s a popular opinion that if you don’t absolutely HEART the biggest and newest social media site, you lose your Web 2.0 card. Well, you may as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb — I’ll take the opportunity to publicly admit that the iPhone has been in Canada for three whole weeks now and I don’t have one of those either. :)

  • http://ittybiz.com Naomi Dunford

    Oh, good Lord, yes. I feel like I’m the only person in the business world that doesn’t think the sun shines out of LinkedIn’s ass. Facebook was kind of OK for me until the whole send-me-a-plant thing started. But I really dig Twitter.

    It seems like there’s a popular opinion that if you don’t absolutely HEART the biggest and newest social media site, you lose your Web 2.0 card. Well, you may as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb — I’ll take the opportunity to publicly admit that the iPhone has been in Canada for three whole weeks now and I don’t have one of those either. :)

  • http://chelpixie.com Michelle / chelpixie

    I don’t like Plurk or Friendfeed. I don’t want to read every single thing that someone decides to send through their social sites and Plurk’s layout turns me off. I felt guilty about this until I realized I have plenty of conversation and information where it really works for me. I try new things, but in the end, it’s about what fits into my life.

    I have a business to run and need to focus on what works for my productivity (etc) versus what works for others.

    Oh and there are plenty of other places to play (and connect with Chris). :)

  • http://chelpixie.com Michelle / chelpixie

    I don’t like Plurk or Friendfeed. I don’t want to read every single thing that someone decides to send through their social sites and Plurk’s layout turns me off. I felt guilty about this until I realized I have plenty of conversation and information where it really works for me. I try new things, but in the end, it’s about what fits into my life.

    I have a business to run and need to focus on what works for my productivity (etc) versus what works for others.

    Oh and there are plenty of other places to play (and connect with Chris). :)

  • http://www.bellawebdesign.com Desiree Scales

    I’m with on you Plurk. I like the interface, pretty neat with the timeline and images, but its just not effective. I gave it a week and that was all I needed to make my decision. My time is better spent on Triiibes, Twitter, LinkedIn and sometimes Facebook.

  • http://www.bellawebdesign.com Desiree Scales

    I’m with on you Plurk. I like the interface, pretty neat with the timeline and images, but its just not effective. I gave it a week and that was all I needed to make my decision. My time is better spent on Triiibes, Twitter, LinkedIn and sometimes Facebook.

  • http://spap-oop.blogspot.com Tish Grier

    I’m another of those who totally agrees, Chris! And it’s one thing for those of us who work in social media to try everything…and weed it out. It’s another for small business people to be trying everything and finding they’re spending more time on social media than they are on their businesses. In my consulting, I’ve found this to be common, and also for many to just throw up their hands and walk away from *everything.* So, one of the best, and most important thing for some of us is to try things, weed them out, and then have the knowledge of the community to recommend various apps to clients. It’s good for us to know both the pros and cons of a service as well as its community. Only then can we do the right thing for ourselves and our harried clients!

  • http://spap-oop.blogspot.com Tish Grier

    I’m another of those who totally agrees, Chris! And it’s one thing for those of us who work in social media to try everything…and weed it out. It’s another for small business people to be trying everything and finding they’re spending more time on social media than they are on their businesses. In my consulting, I’ve found this to be common, and also for many to just throw up their hands and walk away from *everything.* So, one of the best, and most important thing for some of us is to try things, weed them out, and then have the knowledge of the community to recommend various apps to clients. It’s good for us to know both the pros and cons of a service as well as its community. Only then can we do the right thing for ourselves and our harried clients!

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  • http://www.davistudio.blogspot.com Mary Anne Davis

    Thanks for saying it so well. :-)

  • http://www.davistudio.blogspot.com Mary Anne Davis

    Thanks for saying it so well. :-)

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  • http://www.mn-meetings.blogs.com Amanda

    This a great post. I agree, too. I just can’t hop on board with Twitter or RSS feeds yet. I feel like my life is already on information overload with news, blogs, e-mails, etc., that just adding a few more things that are so “instant” will drive me insane and I won’t get anything done!

  • http://www.mn-meetings.blogs.com Amanda

    This a great post. I agree, too. I just can’t hop on board with Twitter or RSS feeds yet. I feel like my life is already on information overload with news, blogs, e-mails, etc., that just adding a few more things that are so “instant” will drive me insane and I won’t get anything done!

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    I totally agree with you, I have not tried out Plurk yet, however there are other platforms that really are not for me, Facebook for example, I hate it!

  • http://getinternetmarketingstrategies.com/2008/08/keyword-anchor-text-and-a-reminder-to-my-readers/ Do-Follow Blog – Use your Kewords in the Name Spot

    I totally agree with you, I have not tried out Plurk yet, however there are other platforms that really are not for me, Facebook for example, I hate it!

  • Keli Whidden

    Amen.

  • Keli Whidden

    Amen.

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  • http://www.scamtypes.com Scam

    I empathise with you completely Chris – I’ve tried many a social site and always give them some time to see if they will ‘gel’ into my routines.

    However, Plurk just didn’t ‘do it’ for me either, for much the same reasons that you quoted.

  • http://www.scamtypes.com Scam

    I empathise with you completely Chris – I’ve tried many a social site and always give them some time to see if they will ‘gel’ into my routines.

    However, Plurk just didn’t ‘do it’ for me either, for much the same reasons that you quoted.

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    But don’t let people tell you that you’re wrong for not liking something. Not into blogging? Swell. Don’t like Twitter? Fine. Hate podcasts? Perfect. It’s okay not to need/want/love the whole landscape. There are lots of services that people love that don’t fit my personal needs. I appreciate the services, but I’m not using them much.

  • http://www.savetubevideo.com youtube downloader

    But don’t let people tell you that you’re wrong for not liking something. Not into blogging? Swell. Don’t like Twitter? Fine. Hate podcasts? Perfect. It’s okay not to need/want/love the whole landscape. There are lots of services that people love that don’t fit my personal needs. I appreciate the services, but I’m not using them much.

  • http://www.savetubevideo.com youtube downloader

    But don’t let people tell you that you’re wrong for not liking something. Not into blogging? Swell. Don’t like Twitter? Fine. Hate podcasts? Perfect. It’s okay not to need/want/love the whole landscape. There are lots of services that people love that don’t fit my personal needs. I appreciate the services, but I’m not using them much.