Mind Reading

I'm Not Racist. All I Am Is Afraid - Nobel Peace Center

At the Nobel Peace Center, I saw this bit of writing on a wall: “I’m not racist. All I am is afraid.”

I loved it, because it speaks to something we all do. We assume that we understand what someone else is thinking. In self-esteem books, this is called “mind reading.”

Mind reading is when we project our thoughts of what someone else is thinking onto that someone else. This is what we do in relationships. This is what we do at events, when we’re thinking about whether or not we can introduce ourselves to someone new. Mind reading, almost always, is useless. It’s not helpful. It’s a bunch of fake emotions and thoughts (mostly our fears) that we project onto other people.

And yet, it’s what we do more often than not.

Avoid Mind Reading

The easiest way to avoid mind reading is to ask, or to dare to see if what you’re fearing is real. For instance, you can walk up to someone and say, “I’d love to introduce myself, if this is a good time.” That takes your worry away that the person might be thinking now isn’t a good time, because instead, you’ve given them the opportunity to say that maybe you can connect later. Make sense?

Another way to do it is to communicate more of your position so that the other person doesn’t try mind-reading you. Remember, you’re not the only one doing this. So, for instance, you might say, “I’m usually a bit quiet during negotiations, but please don’t let that silence seem like I’m upset. I’m actually quite excited about this opportunity.” See how that puts everything back in their hands?

Stay Vigilant

It’s important to stay vigilant to mind reading. If not, you run the risk of answering on behalf of other people, and quite often in the negative. This translates to the online world as well. Perception is not reality. It’s not likely that what you’re presuming is actually true, especially if it’s the negative.

What Say You?

Have you done this? Have you tried reading other people’s minds and filling the silence with your own negative fears? How do you combat it? Where are you with this situation today?

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  • Mitchellclmns81

    it was 2 times in my life i read someone mind the first time i was around 6 or 7 and just now why it was freaky

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  • Melgarnancy83

    My name is nancy i read minds interested call or text me willing to share my intellegence with other melgarnancy83@yahoo.com call 2404801592.

    • Dickwad67

      Nancy – why did you stop responding to my texts and phone calls? I know you can read my mind, but it’s not as if it was like really illegal stuff. I still think you’re sexy. Maybe you’re on vacation. I’ll keep trying.

    • Guest

      i love nancy.

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  • Winston Foi

    Yes it’s true. I am Asian and I can read minds. I can’t say my name because I would probably be killed or silenced, but I need to reveal this. All Asians know how to read people’s minds. We also know how to block other Asians from reading our minds if we want to. I think this is natural and makes sense, I just don’t understand why non-Asians can’t do it. It’s not an extra sense. It’s just normal. It’s non-Asians that are weird in that they are lacking this sense, like as if they are blind, or lacking a sense of smell. There are actually much more than five senses. Mind-reading is one of them which all Asians possess. Black peoples possess a sense of rhythm, which non-black-peoples (especially Asians) can’t possibly understand. Sense of rhythm is very strange, and I find hard to imagine what it is like. I think of it in terms of colors, as if multi-colored ribbons of sound come streaming out of speakers, twisting and changing and filling up the place with swirling waves of colors, sometimes violent. When black peoples see these ribbons coming out of speakers, they try to get away from them, or move out of their way because they are freaked out. When you learn to do this, and to anticipate and predict their snake-like motions, you can actually move out of their way pretty quick and it’s called dancing. That’s why black peoples know how to do it so well. That’s how I imagine it anyways. But it’s true that we Asians can read minds. 

    • Xavier

      You clearly didn’t understand the article.
      I can read body language very well, but we all project, like described in the article.

      Your description of sense of rhythm proves you that you can’t read minds and shows your projection.

      Rhythm is a mind thing and if you could read mind (emotions, thoughts, etc) you would see it, you could get high on the vibes coming out of a person who is feeling the music.

      • JUNE

        you have no idea…..

        • JUNE

          you smell of arrogance im sure i would see that in our first encounter, i feel your arrogance and your upset at the fact the article and others say Asians are the only ones w this extra sense… ok your great w body language do you feel better now ;))))) smile its a great day….

    • MunKy

      This is the best post ever. I love the bit about dancing. This is now my truth, my mantra, my sarcastic jizm juice for the morning. Kudos!

  • http://www.facebook.com/leziojr Lezio Junior

    That’s awesome, I actually practice mind-reading a lot and I’m glad to know I’m not the only one. From now on I’ll start trying out things without presuming what others are thinking. I’m aware the more you think about a situation the more afraid you get of it, so I should just try it and if it doesn’t work well, whatever, at least I tried. If I hadn’t tried I wouldn’t know anyway!

  • Trinity

    they can hear, and see what your visually thinking
    this is the absolute complete truth

    The reason a lot of Asians have completely expressionless faces, segregate from everybody else-only associate with Asians and don’t associate with non Asians that much, and are very unfriendly in general is to avoid accidentally revealing that they can read minds. If all over a billion Asians where to show facial expressions all the time just as much as non Asians, integrate and associate with non Asians much more, and be much more friendly and talkative, then a lot of them might accidentally reveal that they can read minds by accidentally showing a facial expression or dirty look when someone thinks, or visually pictures something in their mind they don’t like, find astonishing, or funny etc because those people might see that and and really wonder what that was that just happened there and see the connection, and they might accidentally say something similar to what the person was just thinking and going to say. If they all associated with non Asians a lot more then there would be a lot more people around for them to accidentally show facial expressions when those people think things they don’t like etc, so they segregate and only associate with Asians so there won’t be anyone around for them to see that and have any accidents happen in the first place.

    Every single Asian alive is hiding their mind reading abilities, they don’t want ANYBODY to know that they can read minds, they will always deny that they can read minds, they will lie about having mind reading abilities forever!!!!
    Because they value hiding their mind reading abilities more then their own lives!
    That’s why nobody knows about it!

    Try thinking, best yet visually picturing in your mind something absolutely crazy as you possibly can when you are around Asians, and try looking for Asians who give people particular looks, especially dirty looks for what appears to be for completely no reason, that is them giving people looks when they hear and visually see someone thinking something they don’t like, find astonishing, or funny etc.
    It still happens despite a large percentage of Asians having completely expressionless faces all the time, it would just happen a lot more if none of them had completely expressionless faces all the time, it’s still not uncommon!

    I know this may sound crazy, impossible and unbelievable, BUT IT ISN’T CRAZY WHEN ITS TRUE

    You have to spread the message!!!!!
    The world has to know about this!!!!!

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  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_M37MXDBO5QAGKL7LYMJVHQHRK4 Anony

    I’m Cuban and I can read minds but I attribute that to my Capricorn Sun & Pisces Moon. People are afraid of me. lol My paternal grandfather was half Asian, part of the Barrio Chino community in Cuba.

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  • Arosonom

    Sometimes it is hard not to ‘mind read’; especially when you’re an Empath. In fact you have more than just mind reading to worry about; you have the emotions of everyone in close proximity smashing into your being and confusing even yourself what YOU’RE feeling.

    Im not disagreeing that ‘mind-reading’ is a terrible practice- just that it is harder for some people than it is others.

    And Trinity, not only can EVERYONE read minds, everyone can move solid objects through walls.

    Asians are just better and won’t share their info. D:

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  • Guest

    I Love this Because i find it happens more often than not and yes i do try hard to control my thoughts and assumptions of what one is thinking because its damaging and your right usually negative, i have someone close to me who trys very hard to mind read and his thoughts thats are projected are all often than not,, so negative and destructive, the sad part is this person actually thinks they are correct and right with their thoughts, they ruin relationships and cause conflict daily with their bad mind reading thoughts, i had a discussion with this person of course treading carefully with my assumption being as logical and fair as possible by saying that your thoughts are incorrect and the judgment you are placing is not in line with my thoughts and those close to you, please understand your not always correct and your not a mind reader yes i said this, because they say they read minds hahaha okeyyy… so i have had enough and this person will never change always self distruct relationships they have made… this is a main reason why i always evaluate my thoughts before speaking because first off your usually incorrect or off.. but nobodys perfect!! :)

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  • MunKy

    Thanks for the Advice @Chris-Brogan. I will think on your words frequently.

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