Pirate Moves – Pass The Mic

Calvin Lee and Louie Baur It’s not what you say about yourself that counts. You know that. So why try? A week or so ago, I met Calvin Lee and Louie Baur, to name a few, at the So Cal Action Sports Network event at Oakley HQ.

Calvin is quiet but personable. Louie is outrageous and jovial. They are both stars in their own skies. Calvin is a designer, but to me, he’s an information core on Twitter. Louie? Louie can get your online stuff attention. He proved it to me a week before I met him in person.

Now, what’s funny is that they both came to the event to see me. Want the truth? I came to the event so that I could meet them. That’s not being polite. That’s not false modesty. That’s how the business works for me. I fly places, speak, and get the chance to meet amazing new people with incredible talents.

I meet thousands of people a year. Do you know who sticks out to me? I’ll give you a list (as I often do):

Ten Ways to Stand Out at an Event

  1. Be sexier. Confidence matters tons.
  2. Remember that you’re every bit as important as the person you’re meeting. Not pompous or arrogant; just important.
  3. Don’t push your agenda. Just get to know me. We can do business any time. Just meet me. We’ll do business later.
  4. Share. Give people things (and things can be information, ideas, introductions to others).
  5. Praise other people. The more you tell me about yourself, the more I wonder if you’re cocky/arrogant.
  6. Share the air. If you talk and talk and talk and I nod and smile the whole time, I’m happy, but also probably not going to remember much about you.
  7. Brevity is okay, but also knowing a nugget about what makes you passionate is great. If you say, “I’m really into surfing,” then I’ve got lots to ask you. If you say, “I love your tweets,” I can say thank you.
  8. Introduce me to someone else. I love meeting your friends, too.
  9. Bring your best ideas. If you’ve got something to run by me, it’s okay if it’s brief. Share the nugget, not the riverbed.
  10. Know that coffee and beer trump breakfast or dinner. People often want to continue talking over a meal. It’s hard to meet with lots of people and take an hour or more for a meal. Coffee or beer works just fine. : )

Over the next several weeks, I’ll be in Detroit, New Zealand, Santa Barbara, and then at the Inbound Marketing Summit event in San Francisco (April 28-29). Please be sure to connect. Please go out of your way to say howdy do. It’s why I bother flying all the time.

Realize that I travel so that I can hear your story. Think about that with your own business. Are you talking about yourself or about your passionate customers? Are you talking about your products or about the people who use them?

Related posts:

  1. Pirate Moves- Promoting Without Being That Guy
  2. Pirate Moves- Equip Your Ship
  3. Pirate Moves- From Awareness to Extended Action
  4. Pirate Moves – The Value of Passionate Communities
  5. Welcoming Colin Browning to the Pirate Ship

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  • http://writing.mousewords.net mousewords

    Chris, your blog continually blows my mind before I get through the first few paragraphs. :-) This time I got as far as “Remember that you’re every bit as important as the person you’re meeting. Not pompous or arrogant; just important,” and came to a halt. Awesome!

    (Well, temporary halt–I did finish reading, and the rest was just as cool.) ;-)

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  • Dave Falconetti

    Gee I wonder if in all these travels and meetups if you suffer head injuries from the lack of space.

  • Dave Falconetti

    Gee I wonder if in all these travels and meetups if you suffer head injuries from the lack of space.

  • Bonnie Murphy

    Chris, thank you for such an insightful article. This is the kind of stuff that you are not taught in undergrad or graduate school nor by management in a company….yet it should be!

    No matter what life situation you are in, this advice is prudent, I am continually amazed by your writings – I don’t get to read you that often, every time I do I am totally caught of guard by their powerful lessons!

    I just wanted to take the time to thank you for your wisdom and hope one day it is published in some sort of collection book….I think people would get a lot out of it.

  • Bonnie Murphy

    Chris, thank you for such an insightful article. This is the kind of stuff that you are not taught in undergrad or graduate school nor by management in a company….yet it should be!

    No matter what life situation you are in, this advice is prudent, I am continually amazed by your writings – I don’t get to read you that often, every time I do I am totally caught of guard by their powerful lessons!

    I just wanted to take the time to thank you for your wisdom and hope one day it is published in some sort of collection book….I think people would get a lot out of it.

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  • http://twitter.com/missdestructo Miss Destructo

    Yes yes yes! These are exactly the rules I wish everyone followed. I hate walking out of an event not getting to know any people, just their products or pitches.

    Coffee always works on us blue haired women…. btw. ;-)

  • TamiAtVCConnex

    Just came across thru a RT on twitter. You've nailed it! I love #4 because I love to share, give, whatever you want to call it. You also have to be sincere and not try to get something back. I believe by doing so will always come back around in a positive position for yourself. Now if we can only get others to spread the word & apply. Thank you for sharing.

  • TamiAtVCConnex

    Just came across thru a RT on twitter. You've nailed it! I love #4 because I love to share, give, whatever you want to call it. You also have to be sincere and not try to get something back. I believe by doing so will always come back around in a positive position for yourself. Now if we can only get others to spread the word & apply. Thank you for sharing.